Can marriage counseling help save a relationship that is falling apart? | Safe and Sound

After a period of living together, many couples face conflicts and disagreements that cannot be resolved. When this situation persists, the marriage can easily reach a dead end. In such a situation, marriage counseling is an effective solution to help couples regain their connection. But can marriage counseling really save a broken marriage? Let's analyze with psychological experts through this article.

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1. What is marriage counseling?

Marriage counseling helps mend marital relationships

Marriage counseling is the process of working with a mental health professional to understand the causes of stress in a relationship. Through counseling sessions, couples have the opportunity to express their feelings, learn to communicate more effectively, and find solutions to improve their relationship.

Psychologists will use a variety of methods such as cognitive behavioral therapy, couples therapy, or communication techniques to help couples work through difficulties.

2. When should you seek marriage counseling?

Not all couples realize they need help from a psychologist. Here are some signs that your marriage is in trouble and may need intervention:

Poor communication : Couples often misunderstand or argue without finding a solution.
Lack of emotional connection : Two people live together but no longer share with each other like before.
Constant Conflict : The arguments are increasing and show no signs of abating.
Trust issues : One or both partners feel they cannot trust the other.
Changes in sex life : Either it becomes cold, or it is maintained only out of obligation.
Thinking about divorce : One of you has thought about divorce.

One or both have a third person

If you notice one or more of the above signs, consulting a psychologist is necessary to save the marriage.

3. Does marriage counseling really help save a marriage?

3.1. Marriage counseling helps improve communication

Marriage counseling helps improve communication between husband and wife

One of the main reasons why marriages fail is poor communication. Psychologists can help couples learn how to listen and express their thoughts without hurting each other. When two people can talk honestly, they are more likely to resolve conflicts.

By learning to communicate positively, couples can reduce misunderstandings and unnecessary arguments. Psychologists often teach couples how to use friendly language, avoid negative words, and know how to respond to each other's emotions in an empathetic way.

3.2. Helps identify the root cause of the conflict

Many couples argue over surface issues without realizing the root of the conflict. A psychologist can help them identify the underlying factors that cause conflict and find appropriate solutions.

For example, a couple always has conflicts and arguments when they talk; the wife always thinks that her husband does not understand or respect her. However, after analysis and advice from an expert, the wife realizes that the cause of her husband's behavior is due to her previous wrongdoings .

Identifying the underlying cause helps couples change their perspective and find long-term solutions.

3.3. Rebuilding engagement

Marriage counseling focuses not only on resolving conflicts but also on helping couples reconnect. Psychologists often suggest activities that help couples rebuild trust and affection.

Exercises like journaling about positive things about each other, spending quality time together, or practicing loving acts can help couples remember why they got together in the first place.

3.4. Support in decision making

In some cases, marriage counseling does not always lead to reconciliation. If both partners have completely lost their feelings or no longer want to continue, a psychologist will help them make the decision that will hurt them the least. Or when the relationship has problems and both spouses are wondering whether to continue so that their children have enough parents or to stop to free themselves, a psychologist will help them consider making the right decision without hurting their children.

In addition, a psychologist will also help your child prepare mentally before the parents announce the divorce, avoiding psychological problems that negatively affect the child.

This does not mean that marriage counseling is a failure, but sometimes ending a toxic relationship can be the best thing for both parties. A psychologist will guide you through a peaceful breakup, helping both parties prepare mentally to move on.

4. In what cases is marriage counseling effective?

Marriage counseling is not always effective in all situations. For good results, cooperation from both parties is required. Some situations where marriage counseling can be effective include:

When both still have feelings for each other : If there is still love and desire to change, the couple will have the opportunity to heal through the guidance of a psychological expert .
When the conflict is not too serious : Problems such as conflicts in communication, differences in life views, work or financial pressure can be resolved if both parties commit to change.
When both are willing to change together : If only one person is willing to try and the other is not cooperative, the effectiveness of the counseling will be reduced and it will be difficult to mend the relationship.
When there is no evidence of domestic violence : If there is a persistent element of physical or mental abuse, marriage counseling may not be the right solution. In this case, psychologists will recommend measures to protect the victim's safety.

In addition, the success of marriage counseling also depends on the psychologist that the couple chooses. A professional with solid expertise, deep understanding of marital psychology and good therapeutic skills will help the counseling process achieve more positive results.

In conclusion, marriage counseling can be a useful method to help couples overcome the crisis, but it is important that both partners are willing to cooperate and change. If you are having problems in your marriage, do not hesitate to seek out a psychologist to receive timely support.

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